When pain is divorced from love,
it leads a man to wish others
were as he is;
it makes him cruel, hateful, bitter.
When pain is unsanctified by affection, it scars, burns up all our finer sensibilities of the soul, and leaves the soul fierce and brutal.
Pain as pain, then, is not an ideal;
it is a curse, when separated from love, for rather than making one's soul better, it makes it worse by scorching it.